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"We probably wouldn't worry about what people thinkof us

if we could know how seldom they do."

Olin Miller

Do you always love your family and friends? Even the ornery ones? Some are tough, arent they? Yet its possible to end conflicts with others, enjoy them, and ignore what you dont like.

Thats not approval of what you dont like. Its ignoring and not participating in what another chooses that is not right for you. That is the quick path to stress free relations. There really isnt another choice that will make you happy. Heres why.

Stress and inherited genetic patterns. Stress is both "wanting and resisting" at the same time. You want loving relationships and fun with others, but may fear, disapprove or dislike certain traits in many of them.

You can shift from disapproval to approval quicker than you imagine simply by seeing that it is the process in your mind that is annoying you.


All human behavior is genetic: Your fears and anxiety are not only about the situation "now." You inherited those fears and attitudes, along with all your behavior.

You wouldnt bother disliking others except that you feel threatened. Others can't interfere with you. Your resistance and annoyance of them is bringing out the worst in both of you and thats what is interfering with you.

Whatever you experience is attracted to you by what you feel. You feel what you tell yourself to feel. If you are expecting annoying traits you find them. If you are expecting a fun time you find it. What are you telling yourself?

Fearful attitudes are only habits. Fear is an old genetic family habit of feeling threatened from your ancestors experiences of many generations ago. Its only a habit nothing more. Once you feel fearful, you look for a reasonand find one, blaming another for what youre feeling. It could be otherwise. That cycle can not make you happy.

It's exactly the same as an alcoholic blaming drinking on a situation or person and not on their addiction to a dysfunctional habit.

Fear is a trap that clouds reason and always leads to stress and frustration.

So what do you tell yourself? Complaining, judgmental, annoyed? If you see in others what you don't like - you'll get more of that. Your attention to it is drawing it out. Then you resist them, and they resist you...and you feel worse, and so do they....hmmmm, no one is going to enjoy this encounter, right? Not good!

Instant stress relief: Love and right-relationships with others.

You are doing it, so you can stop it. Break that habit today. Switch - take one quick step - to unconditional (means - no conditions) total acceptance.

Sound big? Its not. Its easy. Simply create a new habit to replace the old fearful one. You just did not know that was an option. Do that for yourself (not them) so you feel good. It's a simple mechanical process: a fear triggers an emotion, you react (old habit.) Change to the new habit of finding something you like...that makes you smile...and concentrate on it until you do smile - and repeat it until it sticks.

The fact is your condemnation of what you don't like keeps you stuck in it. It enlarges it and attracts others to play in it with you. You're using your attracting power to feel miserable. Gossip, judgment and blaming are genetic social games. Only you keep it alive, and you can stop it.

Accepting others, as they are is stress-free relating.

Simply choose two or more traits you do like and then train yourself to only see and expect that. Just like you'd train yourself to play the piano: Practice. Or not. Now you know you are doing it, can you really continue it, bring out the worst in someone - and not laugh?

Is this an "....ah HA! moment?" Just like you do not eat poisoned food, cut out of your mind ideas that poison your relationships --like fear, judgement, and disapproval.

Your relations with others are telling you about you. How you love is intimately connected to your sense of self-worth: you are as willing to love your self as you are willing to love others. Or not.

Develop the habit of appreciating yourself and your talents and youll find it easy to appreciate others. Ignore the annoying traits of others and youll overlook your own and very soon they will be a non-issue.


Find yourself - what you love and enjoy and lift yourself out of the range of fear and strife.

Love is easy to do: Make a list of 20 things you love about yourself and at least five things you admire about yourself. Reading about it wont help you. Get a pen, and get with the program and write it out - now. You can't get to stress-free without it.


These are your "seed talents" and the basis of your relations with others, and your own "Self-worth" and the foundation of you loving YOU. Until you do love you, no one else can. Know why? Your attitudes and expectations are "attracting" your experiences: Giving and receiving are the same: Karma is, What goes around comes around. And Law of Attraction matches it all up.

Give yourself the gift of unconditional love this year. Its the best gift you can give to your family and loved ones. Your happiness is all up to you.

Your Good Fortune for today: Of all the gifts you receive-- the greatest is love.

Cheryl Janecky is the expert on attracting Good Fortune and quick easy steps to Living the Dream stress free. Get the facts and free "21 Insights, tips and strategies" at http://www.quick-good-fortune.com/Stress-Relief-Today.html.

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